There are two quotes that caught my attention on Twitter yesterday. I am finding it hard to reconcile them in my mind though I fear that it is incredibly simple.
The first was in an article about re-minding that resonated strongly, at the beginning, but seemed to lack the resolution I was looking for. It was a short sentence that stood out a mile –
“The Buddha says that all suffering is due to attachment”.
The second was from Ted Hughes and says nothing new but everything I need to remember –
“The only thing people regret is that they didn’t live boldly enough, that they didn’t invest enough heart, didn’t love enough”.
Both evoked the same “but of course” response – and yet there is an obvious challenge in the demand to love and live passionately, and how difficult it is not to get attached when those emotions are awakened.
I have been thinking about love a lot lately.
Having fallen hard and wonderfully and totally unexpectedly in love this year, the theme has taken on a new significance and I wonder how it is that I haven’t questioned it before. How I have managed to love – which I know I have – without grasping, fully, just how phenomenally powerful and complex and difficult and magical and obvious the emotion is.
Critchley says that love is “the constant shaking of oneself” and, in many ways, that is exactly how it has felt.
The funny thing about being shaken is that, although the unsettlement is scary, it also makes you realise that you can’t go back –
And so I agree wholeheartedly with Hughes that the investment is imperative. That it is why we are here. That, often, the sense that we are not living in that way is what causes the tension, in whichever form it appears –
But I wonder how you live like that without becoming attached. Without hanging on to the thing that has awakened your passion, be it a person or a subject or even a thing –
I am all too aware that hold on too tightly to something and it will fly away or get crushed – but there seems to be an incredible skill in giving yourself passionately whilst knowing that you’re not holding on.